WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW WHEN IT COMES TO THE SEX DEPARTMENT.........

"Men think they know what a Woman wants but every now and then we have to give them a lesson"

- Trina 1stclassladies

Don't you just love a man who prides himself on knowing every inch of what us women want in the bedroom.  Claiming to fame that they can bring us to ecstasy, the moon, stars and everywhere else effortlessly.  AHEM..... pardon us while most of the time this means the exact opposite when getting down to the get down and then its MAN DOWN!!!

Verbal lashing during sex, absurd commands, throw it in your face, just a few examples of what is to come in this article! We would like to shed some light on a few examples of what real women's complaints were when it came to men thinking they knew what we want in the bedroom!!

"HOT POCKET"

As R&B singer K Michelle calls it, LOL!  Hot Pocket is a nickname for a woman's love spot, which generally isn't always hot and ready when you might want it.  As a new rap song boosts the lyrics:

"...don't need no master room, don't need to

set the mood, she like Yeah, one touch

one touch she gon give me all the love, 

she ready"

aaaahhh, this is all fine and dandy doing the sexy cat walk to the beat and vocals of Chris Brown on the chorus and Fabolous on the verses but no every woman is ready when you are!!  Gents, some time we might need the mood set right (as Johnny Gill use to sing), or some slow tunes while you remove one article of our clothing at a time seductively perhaps using your teeth for that last piece!

"MAKE LOVE"

What men should definitely understand is that for woman sex ties to our emotions.  Now this isn't for the men and women just getting it in for the hell of it.  This is for the real couples to examine more.  When we have sex with that one its more like we're giving our souls, our temples by letting you in.  Please acknowledge this when instead of banging her brains out, calling her all hella names while damn near yanking her tracks off track, you make passionate love to her!  One of the best experiences is when your actually in LOVE!

"THERE IS A SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH"

Not sure between the genders which has the highest sex drive but we can tell you which will be the first to not ever return your call because of the thirst issue.  Think about it!!  If a woman  adamantly wants to give you her love a man is going to accept on the other hand if a man adamantly wants to give up the D, its a complete TURN OFF TO US!!!  In no shape or form do us women want a man who might as well pull it out and stick it in our face because he is going that hard!! Gentlemen this is a NO NO!!

Gents we know at times women can be a bit hard to read, however never be overly confident in that you know exactly what she wants.  Pay close attention to her body language, it never lies!

INFAMOUS MOVIE MOMS

 

 

 

AS WE CELEBRATE THIS MOTHER'S DAY, WE WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THE TIME AND GO DOWN MEMORY LANE TO COMMEMARATE THE MOST INFAMOUS OF MOM ROLES PLAYED ON THE BIG SCREEN!!!!!!

 

 

BABY MOMMA

 

 

 

Who can forget the hilarious comedy movie released in April of 2008!!!  Stereotypical movie title but showcased the comical side to having a surrogate mother as funny as actress Amy Poehler who pretends to be pregnant for actress Tina Fey!!  All in all both when by the end of the movie ended up with their own families and each other!!

 

 

 

 

SOUL FOOD

 

 

One of the most family orientated all African American cast movie is Soul Food released in 1997.  This movie was a realistic depiction of what families go through good and bad and a perfect example for Mother Day in that the one thing that held the family together was "Big Momma".

 

 

 

 

 

STEP MOM

 

 

 

We have mothers, grandmothers, and then there is STEPMOM!  This movie released Christmas of 1998 put to rest the stereotype that stepmothers were evil.  Instead this movie showed Julia Roberts who played the stepmother as she learns to fit in with her husbands children and ex wife as they are soon to be wed and Susan Sarandon who played the mom who is faced with a life threatening disease and her husbands new fiancé!  Though sounding like a difficult situation both woman handled the task tearfully yet joyfully.

 

 THE BLIND SIDE

 

 

This movie released in 2009 and also based on a true story shed light on the character of what a mother is.  Mothers are not necessarily, in every situation, the person who gave birth to you.  A lot of times its the woman who took that role in caring and raising you.  This movie showcased this to PERFECTION, you hear me.  It follows Sandra Bullock as a mom of two who takes in a homeless high school boy.  She took this boy into her home and heart and showed the world what the true definition of a mother is!

 

CROOKLYN

 

 

 

If you want to know what life is like being raised in an African American household back in the 1970's this is your hit!!  This classic Spike Lee film shows the ups and downs of a family (Alfre Woodard who plays the mother along with her husband played by Delroy Lindo and their four children) living in BedStuy Brooklyn, New York.  Alfre Woodard works a 9-5, cooks and cleans for and behind four children, while dealing with the stresses of every day life.  This movie shows the strength of a mom in what she does and sacrifices for her family.

 

 

 

ERIN BROCKOVICH

 

 

 

Julia Robert couldn't have done a better job at this one released March 14, 2000!  Showing the sacrifices that mothers make to provide for their children Julia plays an employee for a law firm that is trying to provide evidence and prove that local plant is contaminating the water supply which is causing sickness and fatality in the town which she resides.  While she faces many hardships with working this case she remains strong in being mom to her children and a great aide to her community.

 

 

 

ENOUGH

 

 

 

Released May,24,2002 Jennifer Lopez plays a woman who flees from a domestic violent relationship in order to live a normal life as a single parent with her daughter.  As she is on the run from a man who seems to find her everywhere she goes she eventually builds the strength to stop running and face the issue at hand.  This role depicted how strong and protective a mother is especially when it comes to her child or children.

 

THE HELP

 

 

This movie represents a mother in two different point of views.  Having been released August 9, 2011 this movie depicts the lives and realities of African American a little before and during the civil rights movement in the south.  You have two mother roles in this movie where Octavia Spencer, Mrs Minny,  plays mom to her own children at home while having to wait on hand and foot for someone else and their family.  She deals with hardships at home while dealing with the difficulties of society.  On the other hand this movie represents "the mother" in a way where Viola Davis, the actress who plays Aibileen, plays a maid to a family also.  While have lost her own only child she has cared for others children for long periods of times and for so many years thus being their secondary or in some cases primary care giver. 

 

 

 HAVE A HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!!!!!!!

 

TOP 6 THINGS YOU SHOULDNT LIE ABOUT COMING INTO A RELATIONSHIP!!

 

“Things come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.”

 

-Dorothy Allison

 

 

When meeting someone new it is such a *takes a deep breath* *smells the roses*  fresh feeling.  The excitement and anticipation of getting to know that person becomes like a scavenger hunt.  You have long drawn out phone conversations about "Where they like to eat and what cuisine is their favorite"  "What they like to do for fun and what their interests are".  You yearn to know what each other are like on other levels, intimately and longevity. You go on multiple dates to spend quality time together and have a feel of what it's like being in that persons company. 

 

 

Though I've painted the perfect picture of what coming into a new relationship feels like, I have to remind you that you never really know a person until you know a person.  When dating someone new both parties tend to want to make a great impression as to catch the eye of the other.  You both want to dress like a million dollars to show off your impeccable taste.  Wine and Dine at fancy venues to show off your quality in going out.  Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to make an distinctive mark to leave the other party WOOED!!!!  However this brings me to the subject in hand which is though you want to gain the love, admiration, crush, feelings etc of the other party, under no circumstance do you want to make any of the things you say about yourself, any thing that you may mislead turn into LIES!!!!  Particularly there are six to be exact that you definitely Do Not want to LIE about......

 

 

WHATS YOUR NUMBER??

 

 

Ever seen the movie???  Well this is numeral number one we feel shouldn't be discussed period when coming into a new relationship.  Numbers are in reference to "how many partners you've had".  This is something that both parties should keep to themselves.  This should never be brought up in general conversation because at the end of the day it holds NO RELEVANCE!!!!  What does that matter when the only thing that should is each other.

 

 

AGE

 

 

Aaliyah might've said "Age aint nothing but a number" but truth be told and with the way the laws are set up this is not something to play games with. 

 

 

CHILDREN

 

If you have children in meeting someone who doesn't, never lie about yours!!  First meetings and getting to know someone is not necessarily telling everything, but telling the key points of your life which does involve the answer to the question "Do you have children".  No woman wants to date prince charming only to find out months down the road that he has a shit load of children and vice versa!


LIVING ARRANGEMENTS

This one is key!!!!!  Like we discussed in the introduction to this post, we know each party wants to make their best impression.........however this does not mean that you claim to live in a penthouse in the city when in actuality you live at home with your mama!!!






MARRIAGE GOALS

In this day and age you never know what your getting into with someone.  While one party may dream of a marriage with the house and kids to fill it, the other party could be thinking if only for one night thoughts.  Hhhhmmmm....this is why when meeting someone new and throughout the long conversations over dinner or such you should definitely discuss out in the open what your marriage goals are and if marriage is something you want at ALL!!!!!

EX FACTOR



Last but definitely not the least is the Ex factor, factor!!!!  Everyone has a past and we can all understand that but under no circumstance should that ex become apart of what you are trying to build new!!!  This means no one is going to tolerate the ex who is stalking you while out on a date.  Calling at all crazy times of the day!!! Please check your ex's out once out of your life, Thank You!!!

  

HOW TO SPICE UP YOUR VALENTINES DAY!

 

"I'D RATHER HAVE ROSES ON THE TABLE THAN DIAMONDS ON MY NECK"

-Emma Goldman

 

 

 

 

We know Roses are red and Violets are Blue but can we be a tad bit different this year!  Every Valentines Day it's the same flowers sent to the work place, same old choclate, cards, dinner, and at the end of the night maybe even the same old tired bedroom work!  This year could be different if you just put some thought and creativity into the possibilties you can give to your Valentine!!

 

 

 

THE DINNER

 

Instead of the boring dinner reservation at his/her favorite restaraunt, set the mood at home making your dining area into a romantic candle lit dinner.  Music playing, dim lighting, quiet and serene.  Blind folding them so they have no idea where their being taken too.  This gives the person an anticipation of whats to come.  This will excite the person so much more than going out.  They'll appreciate the time and effort!!!

THE SCAVENGER HUNT

This will take a great imagination, some unique hints, and finishes with a romantic BANG!  The scavenger hunt is to have your Valentine find his/her way to a secret destination through numerous clues.  For instance for the ladies, start with a clue to her favorite nail spa or body spa to have a moment of pampering, all for you to pamper her more later.  For the gentlemen drop hints in the most unexpected places they'd think of for whats to come that night.  This idea is sure to give you the Valentine's Day you'll never forget! 









THE ENCORE

By the end of the night you want things to be just right so we suggest for both parties to step it up a knotch!  Try some bedroom toys, massages, edible goodies and more.  Forget the usual bedroom and explore a little more.  Try the balcony of a city lite hotel, or your dark but candle lit kitchen counter, your rose pedal filled tub with plenty of suds, or in front of your well lit fire place!!!  Ladies put on your best lingerie piece, some sexy heels, let your hair flow, beat that face, and go to work on your Beyonce "Dance for you" mode!!  Gentlemen have your A game ready to match your Valentine!!   

10 PLACES TO MEET A MATE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

PLACES TO

MEET A MATE

THIS HOLIDAY SEASON!

HOLIDAY PARTIES

When Christmas is here, let the parties begin!  We're talking work Christmas parties, family gathering parties, or even just a friend of a friends party.  These gatherings in particular bring people together and can potentially bring you together with a mate.

AIRPORT FLOW

Like they say "Come fly in the friendly skies" well this holiday season could potentially be just that!!  While millions of people will be traveling, this up coming month with airports filled to capacity, you just might find yourself in an in depth conversation with an attractive bystander!!

CHARITY EVENTS

It is always great to lend a hand and give back.  What better place to meet someone who shares the same caring, giving heart like yours.  Coat and food drives are great places to meet someone new!!

IN THE STORES

While in and out of all the stores this holiday season you might just catch someones eyes rather than that big sale!!  There will be plenty of ladies and gentlemen's shopping alone and in groups, so HAPPY SHOPPINGS!!

CHURCH

Everyone is welcomed in the lords house! During the holiday season more than ever  people excercise their welcoming.  Many of churches offer special programs and services where people come and enjoy.  Now we are not saying go just to mingle, learn something from the lords word, maybe you will embark on a new aquaintance.