Scandalous Saturday

There is no model like a real ROLE MODEL- J.Davis

Are These Really Our New Role Models

Since we were young our elders have always told us to be leaders and follow those before us. To be more like the ones who have paved a way to make life better then yesterday. From doctors to lawyers, entrepreneurs and even athletes that make more of a difference in the world then they are known for. Both men and women of all colors and races have become what most of us would consider to be true role models. We have wrote history reports on them for their wisdom, talent, an humble attitude when we were in school and are forever grateful as they are proud of their accomplishments. However as time has changed so has our description of a role model. It seems we are now in a place where it is okay to bully, fight, and verbally abuse one another on National television for millions to see and yet grace covers of magazines, be the topic of every conversation, endorsed by the best of the best and simple be rewarded for these despicable actions. At what point do we the public stand up and decide this is not okay? From shows such as "Teen Pregnancy" which is suppose to show other teens  the hardship of having a baby early to the numerous reality shows that VH1 has shown of women cursing, fighting, and acting unlady like- where do we stop and say enough is enough?

Understand 1stClassLadies know very well that T.V. without a little bit of drama doesn't make for good rating- we get that 100%. What we don't know is why EVERYTIME we watch a show that is  ALL we get to see. Reality television started out as something the public watched not only as a source of entertainment but as something we could relate to. To be able to watch a show and every now and again go " damn that's me! lol" Besides the nice cloths, must have shoes, and killer accessories, - what else does it have? What else does it show? That as long as you're cute and have a little bit of money it's okay to act a fool? That it's not about what you know but who you know, who you been with, and what others can do for you? As long as you can score a deal with a popular channel and make a fool of yourself your set? Is this the message we are sending with an approved seal. We're afraid to some extent yes.

Now we are not trying to take away from those who are really trying to better themselves and are using their fame from these shows to do so such as starting whatever line of their choice it is, expanding an already existing project or career move. We applaud you in these efforts and hope you continue to succeed. It's just unfortunate that it took the negative attention to gain those accomplishments. People like Tami Roman has publicly made an apology to her cast, fans, and family for her actions with her role on the hit show "Basketball Wives" and it is said that a few cast members from " Love & Hip Hop" are not set to return because of the image they have received from their show. The fact is they can only blame themselves for what they have done and how people see them. We believe as long as they vow to change in the future and really stick by it becoming a better genuine person then and only then will people respect them as more then just a character on a show with no class.

As mother's we can understand the struggles of handling building a empire as well as taking care of your household; but at the cost of your dignity as well as respect?? What message are you sending to the  young girls facing conflicts with their peers everyday? Besides coining phrases like "Non Mutha F'n Factor", or showing the young ladies of our generation that if you date an athlete you too can have a extensive red bottom shoe collection.. with getaways and luxury vehicles. What exactly is being contributed? The impact these shows have made on adults is even disturbing; giving the misguided a delusional view of how to achieve some type of fame.

As young mothers we 1stClassLadies can truly stand behind the saying " Putting childish things to rest" There are many things we've had to adjust in our own personal lives to be a leading example to our influential daughters and son. Life itself is not "The Bad Girls Club" so why are there so many females trying to fit that mold? We've heard countless times on the "BasketBall Wives" there is a difference between being a groupie and being a potential wife, yet somehow they show us they were just promoted in status with their actions. Who can be seen as the next Maya Angelou..Oprah Winfery.. Betty Shabazz..Coretta Scott King even?? How can women of ethnicity allow themselves as well as our future generations be viewed in such a negative light. 

Why is teen pregnancy all of a sudden glorified? I myself, was a teen mother. And it definitely was no picnic!! A lot of my dreams got  derailed, and i had nine months to figure out how to be a mother when I was still just a child myself. Where is the reality of the situation?? The struggle, the hardship with family, the fact that these girls are being paid, speaks volumes as to how we are encouraging the many wrong decisions they make. As long as it's for our entertainment!!!