Scandalous Saturday

As the value of a $1 has changed, so has that of a marriage- J. Davis

It's every little girls dream to have the fairy tale wedding. The white gown, beautiful flowers, gathered amongst family and friends to unite with that special someone you will spend the rest of your life with. Once the vows have been said and the rings exchange, the ceremony is finalized with those magical words "I now pronounce you husband and wife." The people cheer and the two of you set off to begin the rest of your lives together. Sounds so beautiful and for many that's the way it goes. Then there are others that view marriage as something totally different.

The definition of marriage is " The state of being united as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law." In other words to become as one on paper. This marriage should not change the relationship but definitely "seal the deal." Though the ideal reason to marry is that of love, it is not always the case anymore. As time has changed, so has the value of marriage. To love, have and to hold as long as you both shall live has taken a back burner to other things and no longer is a priority to those getting married today Though this does NOT apply to all, it does apply to many.

Convience for some is a common reason to marry. You always hear people say "you guys have been together forever. Why don't you just get married already?!?!?" However, should time play a part in the union of two people? For some the answer is yes. They don't want to wait forever to take their relationship to the next level. Others say no and that love has no expiration stamp on it. They feel that marriage is just a word and doesn't define the relationship. 

A baby is one of the leading reasons two people marry. There are those who feel obligated to marry because of an offspring. They think they have to "man up" and make the family work. While trying to make the family work sounds good, is marrying for it the same? With every relationship comes ups and downs and a child only adds more pressure. Then to add marriage on top of it- talk about a full plate! Is all of this at once time too much? Is marriage for the sake of a child truly a good idea? A few are in favor of this type of marriage and think that as long as there is communication and BOTH parties are willing to try it, it can work. Others don't agree and feel to marry for a child rather then the love of one another will only cripple the relationship later and the person hurt the most in the end is in fact the child.

With the economy we now live in, marrying for a sense of security is becoming more popular. They think that their future is insured if they do so and this guarantees them no worries. Marilyn Monroe said diamonds are a girls best friend and R. Kelly said money makes the world go round, but Louisa May Alcott said Money is the root of all evil. So which is it?? Can money really buy you happiness? Some people think they can make up for whatever the relationship is missing through the glitz and glamors such as cars, clothes, jewelry, etc. while others believe millions are nice but what is nice if you don't have someone to really share it with.

Whatever reason it is to decide to unite, know that your decision is just that -YOURS. Make the one that's right for you and stick by it. Know that marriage is not something that one should be pressured or forced to do. It should be a joyous time. You may feel nervous and/or scared and this maybe normal as there is alot to put into planning a wedding. Whats is NOT normal is to be scared and/or nervous about if your doing the right thing- if you feel this way ALL THE TIME. With every relationship no matter how long you two have been together or will continue to be together there will be problems. There will be arguments and there will be those moments when you need time just for you. There will also be moments of happiness. Times where his/her touch is all you need. If two can balance the good and the bad, who knows how far they can go...... They Know.