Scandalous Saturday

To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.

Domenico Cieri Estrada

The Grinch Who Stole <3 On X-Mas

It's that time of the year again and, just like clockwork...You either snug up to kiss under the mistletoe with your love. Or chuck up duces to make room for new found liberation in the New Year. But before acting so hastily over a minor disagreement; putting your significant other on the naughty or nice list. Take into consideration the pros and cons within the duration of your relationship.Whether man or woman you need to keep in mind  that, you are the pinnacle in a successful or failed union. Meaning... you receive what you allow to transpire!! If your lucky you will have more good than bad on your tally poll. On the other hand, you may want to examine how to go about approaching the tough discussion that needs to occur. Yes, we know it may sound easier to achieve than it actually is. However if you don't take a stand at some point; you will forever be a stepping stool.. or notch in a belt.


We here at 1stClassLadies know all too well how complicated it can be.. so we've decided to give you the Naughty and Nice signs to determine if you're significant other is just another.

                                                      

The Nice List:

Your lover  makes time for you no matter how conflicting it may be to their schedule. It doesn't matter if it's a inconvenience, they just want to have quality time to be in your presence. Something as simple as talks and cuddling in the morning; or before bed will suffice if their work schedule doesn't permit the time needed

There are no Grey areas!!!  You have great communication. They tell you the good..bad..and ugly!! Meaning there are no trust issues..  You have all passwords to social networks without asking. When it comes to picking up their phone they don't flinch; because there is nothing to be cautious of you finding.

Your lover can keep you on your toes.. we all know when you loose interest troubles can occur out of pure boredom. It can stem from the most important thing.. i.e mental stimulation, to physical.

They show you support.. Through job changes, or family drama!! Your love should always try to be a voice of moral, spiritual, and emotional support. And when needed pull you back to reality when your at risk of self destruction.

Your lover demands that others show you ample respect, while showing you respect on a constant. They will not let a family member, or ex (key letter X) have more significance.. meaning if someone tries to disrespect your placement/title in his or her life. They automatically nip it in the bud.

                                                     

The Naughty List:

 They no longer do things in consideration of you; or your feelings!! There is no emotion or effort to show they care.They have become comfortable!! (And We Don't Mean In A Good Way) There is no fear of loosing you, and with comfort comes arrogance. They feel irreplaceable in your life and take advantage of the position you've given.

They've become distant.. physically, emotionally, mentaly!! As Dru Hill would say, " We don't even talk no more. We ran out of words to say; does it ever stay the same?" That's right my darlings the honeymoon phase has passed. True colors have been painted; and unfortunately the hue is GREY!!

They have become un-supportive; the  little things they once adored  about you have become flaws. Your optimism is seen ass lack of ambition, or they belittle your credentials. 

 You give and they take emotionally with passivated assurance of sarcasm

The overnight stays have diminished. You no longer have a draw.. you have a Rubbermaid bin in the closet. Or your stuff is simply moved and put back upon your entry or exit.

They are secretive!! There is nothing more clear with a sign of infidelity than; when a clear line of open communication becomes blocked off. The phone is under the pillow (set on vibrate or silent), they speak low, and look over there shoulder while on the laptop.

  Remorseless Sexting (Not with you)... Big NO NO!!! The most inexcusable form of disrespect.

 They have considered you a option, not made a priority. How much clearer or BLUNT do you need it? This person is with you for the mere convenience of what tickles their fancy at the moment. Or because you've made it that easy!! The introductions to friends and family have ceased; or never was. You are not mentioned because your status is unknown to others.

So what have we learned today?? Well, although the honeymoon phase does not last. There are little things that should never fade. If there isn't a established trust, communication, and mutual respect for both parties involved then what the sense? Whether man or woman you deserve to be in a healthy relationship. But if your not in one; while trying to make it work.. and have no positive change. Then you need to face the fact that it never was or will be what love is!!