Scandalous Saturday

" There Is A Difference Between Who We Love, Who We Settle With.. And Who We Are Meant For"

                                                                                                            - Angelia. W

                                                      

  Is It Really All Fair In Love And War Of The Sexes?

                                                             

Way before Steve Harvey, one of the 1stClassLadies had a motto. And it went a lil something like this... "Act Like A Lady; Think Like A Man.. So You Don't Get Played Like A Bitch"!! And after seeing the movie yesterday; it led us to draw the question. Do we as women really need a play book on men to have successful relationships? We mean shouldn't it be a common sense thing? There is always a red flag ladies, sometimes we're just too optimistic. We all know when a man is a Player, Momma's Boy, Non- Committed, Dreamer, or just a Bad Boy!

                                                                            

 So why the sudden epiphany with the release of Mr. Harvey's book and movie? Could it be a reinforcement of everything we as women already think, but are afraid to admit to ourselves sometimes? We think so.

It's all about instincts and common sense; we just allow ourselves to be (excuse our language)*  "Mind Fucked"!! There is no shade of gray, we just mix the black and white to create the hue we want in a man. However, we applaud Mr.Harvey for telling it like it is. There is no dumbing down of how trifling a man can be; or how naive we as women can become in search of "Mr.Right". Yet we somehow get "Mr. Right Now". Hell, we all have been .. The Single Mom, The Independent Woman, The Woman Seeking The Ring; and me personally "The 90 day rule woman" (yes, I admit it.. And a few of my ex's will say I went past that)*

                         

  
Can you blame us?  Fellas our tactics of dealing with men; have stemmed from something way deeper. Sure we as woman have to compromise on certain things but not everything. Chivalry is not dead, so fellas be happy if your woman your interested in is requiring a certain standard. Open a door, engage in her mind.. And not just reaching to conquer. Better yet devour her cookie.. leaving her with mere crumbs and a regret.

 If your a dreamer, good for you! Make sure you show initiative and your woman will try to help your dreams become reality.  Ladies we have to motivate our men to greatness sometimes, instead of tearing them down. If you are a mama's boy.. It's time to let go of that apron; we know that no one can compete with your mothers. We don't ask to, we simply ask for attentiveness to know you can be a man without depending on the nestling of your mom. There is no reason the woman you love; or are interested in should have to compete for time or affection.

                                                          

 If your afraid of commitment, then you need to analyze if your willing to let a good thing pass. Sometimes a lack of commitment can hold you back from the greatest thing you've had. And as women we need to realize that our optimism will not change this type of mans mind set. Just because you love him, is not a valid enough reason to settle or sell ones self short. Meeting his standards and having a one-sided relationship is not healthy. Men please realize this " You can't keep her waiting; just because you know she will."